Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse
Reconnect with your Inner Knowing.
Narcissistic abuse creates deep internal divides. Part of you is confused, while other parts are angry and ashamed, yet hold a deep need and desire for connection. The gaslighting and manipulation may feel familiar to an original, familial caretaker. Protective parts want you to stay small, quiet, and hyper-alert to survive.
This type of abuse has you question your reality, your memories, and your perceptions. You find yourself apologizing automatically and parts of you that are terrified of “getting it wrong,” because when you do, there is hell to pay.
Narcissistic Abuse pushes young, vulnerable parts deep inside. These young, wounded parts hold the pain of being belittled and dismissed. They come to believe they are unworthy and unlovable. The protective parts are working overtime, looking like people pleasers, Perfectionists, Numbness or shutting down, Angry, Self-Critical, and hyper-vigilant parts.
The protectors are superheroes with positive intentions, exhausted but doing their best to keep you safe. Like the vulnerable parts, they are stuck in the trauma, stuck in time, and need our loving, accepting, curious attention so they may be heard, unburdened, and healed.
Reconnect the parts with a Non-Pathologizing Approach.
Internal Family Systems is especially helpful for survivors who were blamed, shamed, and silenced.
Healing happens through curiosity and compassion, not force. There are no “bad” parts. We go at the pace of your system, help the protectors relax, and help them trust that you are safe now.
We welcome protectors and the young, wounded ones. Together, we focus on holding them in the light of loving consciousness so that they may be heard, validated, unburdened, and healed.
Internal safety becomes the root of external safety.
Reclaim your Voice and Identity!
As parts soften and heal, you will rediscover your preferences, boundaries, intuition, creativity, and self-worth. IFS not only helps you recover from the past but also reconnect with your authentic, unique, wonderful Self.
Through IFS- informed therapy, you begin to trust your perceptions, quiet the critic, feel more centered and grounded, reduce hypervigilance, and create relationships that feel mutually reciprocal, respectful, and safe.
You don’t have to keep living from the wounds of the past. Your system is capable of profound healing, allowing you to reconnect with your own Wisdom.
Reach out now. I can help! You can contact me at cyndi@wisewayscounseling.com or by calling (707) 272-2737.